Caring for our elderly parents is one of the hardest times in life. In terms of making decisions about increasing levels of care they are kind of like avocados….not yet, not yet, not yet, too late! You are an amazing daughter !
I’m scared, upset and very disappointed. I am a Jewish woman Pro Israel Democrat and feel I have no home and am alone on an island. I fought hard for Kamala, sent texts, wrote posts and knocked on doors for days. Many other Jews worried she wouldn’t be strong on Israel or fight for Jews. I believed in her. I continue to worry about the most rampant anti semitism in my lifetime. I worry about the hostages that are rarely spoken of.
I’m worried about humanity. I believe that Israel nor any country should live with terror attacks and a constant threat for survival. Am I all alone? It really feels like it.
Ditto the above. Thank you for sharing these heartfelt words, which help ground us in our everyday realities, whatever else might be going on in the world ♥️
It was a treat to find your thoughtful essay in my mailbox. Thank you for speaking about the simple things that make us who we are. I think we do all need to tend to the tiny bird in ourselves that has been deeply injured, and take a moment to reflect, to try to understand what is happening and why. I also am finding solace in knowing that to get to this stage in life and to have the sense to be scared now, we had to be kick-ass, resilient, selfless, attentive, and courageous. How do we survive kid-raising, elder-caretaking, menopause, and arthritis (while at least half ass trying to appear put together) without scrappy adaptability and fight? And, kudos to the person who referred to the Serenity prayer- it applies to any moment that we are tempted to control that beyond our control or worry our way out of disaster. So, I would add a free hug for those who want to say no to helpless hopeless, put on their thinking caps, and stay in this. As Mattie in True Grit said, “Ever stalwart.”
I feel this one. We are in the thick of the journey. My mother died when I was just 31 yo. As much as I lament that, as I have missed her for 20+ years in this actual physical life, I also know that it happened when maybe I was a little stronger. When maybe I was more capable of juggling. When I didn't have exhaustion and my own 50++ self to take care of. I fought like hell for her for years. Pill boxes, doctors, so many appointments and waiting and waiting. When the phone finally rang that Saturday morning, I fucking knew the bell had rung differently. I always hated answering the phone.
beautifully put. i lost my dad at 27 but was not part of his care so i had no idea what it would be like. had no idea 50+ would hit so hard just when many of us take on additional responsiblities for elderly loved ones. thank you for helping me anticipate that bell.
Love to you both as you walk your mom through this battle between such fierce contenders. I bet the state of things makes that so much harder..Me? Not okay. I guess I am just a person who cries at the slightest provocation now. At least 7/10 of the abortion amendments won? I am a gay woman living in florida and my daughter cried the entire night he won. So. That’s us.
Welcome back. Hope your time away was restorative. You were missed!
Lovely post, Julie. So nice to have you back writing to us again 🤗
It was lovely to see your name in my inbox. Thank you for sharing.
Caring for our elderly parents is one of the hardest times in life. In terms of making decisions about increasing levels of care they are kind of like avocados….not yet, not yet, not yet, too late! You are an amazing daughter !
I’m scared, upset and very disappointed. I am a Jewish woman Pro Israel Democrat and feel I have no home and am alone on an island. I fought hard for Kamala, sent texts, wrote posts and knocked on doors for days. Many other Jews worried she wouldn’t be strong on Israel or fight for Jews. I believed in her. I continue to worry about the most rampant anti semitism in my lifetime. I worry about the hostages that are rarely spoken of.
I’m worried about humanity. I believe that Israel nor any country should live with terror attacks and a constant threat for survival. Am I all alone? It really feels like it.
I'm worried too. You are not alone. Have faith, God is powerful!
Thanks so much Amy! Very appreciated!
Hugs to you Julie!
Ditto the above. Thank you for sharing these heartfelt words, which help ground us in our everyday realities, whatever else might be going on in the world ♥️
It was a treat to find your thoughtful essay in my mailbox. Thank you for speaking about the simple things that make us who we are. I think we do all need to tend to the tiny bird in ourselves that has been deeply injured, and take a moment to reflect, to try to understand what is happening and why. I also am finding solace in knowing that to get to this stage in life and to have the sense to be scared now, we had to be kick-ass, resilient, selfless, attentive, and courageous. How do we survive kid-raising, elder-caretaking, menopause, and arthritis (while at least half ass trying to appear put together) without scrappy adaptability and fight? And, kudos to the person who referred to the Serenity prayer- it applies to any moment that we are tempted to control that beyond our control or worry our way out of disaster. So, I would add a free hug for those who want to say no to helpless hopeless, put on their thinking caps, and stay in this. As Mattie in True Grit said, “Ever stalwart.”
beautiful
I feel this one. We are in the thick of the journey. My mother died when I was just 31 yo. As much as I lament that, as I have missed her for 20+ years in this actual physical life, I also know that it happened when maybe I was a little stronger. When maybe I was more capable of juggling. When I didn't have exhaustion and my own 50++ self to take care of. I fought like hell for her for years. Pill boxes, doctors, so many appointments and waiting and waiting. When the phone finally rang that Saturday morning, I fucking knew the bell had rung differently. I always hated answering the phone.
beautifully put. i lost my dad at 27 but was not part of his care so i had no idea what it would be like. had no idea 50+ would hit so hard just when many of us take on additional responsiblities for elderly loved ones. thank you for helping me anticipate that bell.
Love to you both as you walk your mom through this battle between such fierce contenders. I bet the state of things makes that so much harder..Me? Not okay. I guess I am just a person who cries at the slightest provocation now. At least 7/10 of the abortion amendments won? I am a gay woman living in florida and my daughter cried the entire night he won. So. That’s us.
big hug elizabeth. and to your daughter.
Thank you!
Been there recently myself. Sending warm hearty hugs to you and yours. Good to hear from you. Take care!
I'm glad to see you today...
I love this. Thank you!
Hugs to you, too!!
I’m sorry to hear of your personal travails and/but happy to once again hear from you🤗