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Karen Summerville's avatar

Your writing is so beautiful that it transcends the grief and pain of death. I aspire to be the kind of friend you are to those whose lives have touched yours.

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Julie Lythcott-Haims's avatar

Thank you for reading the piece, Karen. In my writing I'm always just trying to make sense of the normal, and to derive some meaning that might help us continue forward. I appreciate you. Thanks for your kind words.

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Karena's avatar

I'm very sorry for your double loss, Julie. As always, you beautifully express the internal conversation that goes on in my head and our want to be there for those we cherish.

This warm line stands out for me amidst all this wisdom: how miraculous it must feel to look around and see a brood of humans and know that these people exist because we fell in love.

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Julie Lythcott-Haims's avatar

Karena, thank you for giving this a close read. I love that line, too. Thanks also for your kind words.

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Amy Sanford's avatar

Julie: Beautifully written, as always. I just went through a similar thing with my best friend's father abruptly passing away. I am so sorry for your loss. How incredible you could be there for both of your good friends. They are lucky to have you.

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Julie Lythcott-Haims's avatar

Amy, thanks for reading the piece. I'm sorry your friend abruptly lost her father, and I'm sure they're grateful for your friendship in this tragic moment. Sending love.

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Paula Farmer's avatar

Having just spent December/holidays dealing with great personal loss, I especially appreciate your words on this topic. Early in the month, I suddenly lost my mom, but thankfully I was able to be by her side in Michigan for her final days. Exactly two weeks later, my partner, Michael's father passed away.

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Elena Helmuth's avatar

Your words made me weep with deep gratefulness for the gift you have of sharing love and compassion. Two lines stand out…” my children exist because we fell in love “ and “I’m not here for me “. So grateful

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