Yes to all of this! I love your strategies -- having some concrete things to do (more than simply telling myself to talk less/let others speak) is incredibly helpful. Thank you from an enthusiastic extrovert who continuously works on giving space (and pizza)!
Julie, I love this in general, and more specifically, just yesterday, I went into a new group (a book club of all things!) and told myself what I often have to: Diane, don't talk too much, don't make it about you (even though in making it about "me" I'm wanting to connect to relate to connect). I like your distinction between "shy" and "introvert."
This article is life changing for me. Im actually in tears. Many people feel that extroverts don’t suffer because we easily maneuver verbal dumping shows. But this doesn’t mean we’re always happy in this role. Your suggestions are applicable tools for me to use during my upcoming family vacation. It’s like a Dirty Dancing resort place with lots of people we see each year. I will use my breath. I will count to ten. I will process the silence and savor my one piece of pizza. It’s listening with grace not only for others but for me, as well.
Jill I'm so moved by your reply to my piece. Thank you for sharing how it impacted you and what you might do next as a result. Wishing you well with it, for your sake and for the sake of the whole.
Julie, as a friend of yours in real life, and one who has spent some time with you in a group, this column really made me smile. I’m as introverted as they come so I believe I bring a bit of expertise to this issue. So much of what you said is right on, especially the part about needing extra time to formulate our thoughts and convert them into spoken words, but I think I speak for many of us when I say we are drawn to wonderful extroverts like you because we don’t really want a full share of the pie. I love it when someone whose views I respect assumes a bigger part of the burden of keeping a conversation going.
I would hate to see you rein yourself in too much (although I don’t see that as likely😉)
In the real world, I am the introvertiest introvert that ever introverted. My students, however, see me as an extrovert, partially because I leap to fill dead air in the classroom. My department chair, who observes me on the regular, has mentioned it often, always reminding me that some students need time to formulate their answers. I really like the 10-second rule and will try to add that to my pedagogic repertoire this year. Thanks, Jules!
Yes to all of this! I love your strategies -- having some concrete things to do (more than simply telling myself to talk less/let others speak) is incredibly helpful. Thank you from an enthusiastic extrovert who continuously works on giving space (and pizza)!
Glad it's helpful 👊🏽
Julie, I love this in general, and more specifically, just yesterday, I went into a new group (a book club of all things!) and told myself what I often have to: Diane, don't talk too much, don't make it about you (even though in making it about "me" I'm wanting to connect to relate to connect). I like your distinction between "shy" and "introvert."
Love it. Great to hear from you!
This article is life changing for me. Im actually in tears. Many people feel that extroverts don’t suffer because we easily maneuver verbal dumping shows. But this doesn’t mean we’re always happy in this role. Your suggestions are applicable tools for me to use during my upcoming family vacation. It’s like a Dirty Dancing resort place with lots of people we see each year. I will use my breath. I will count to ten. I will process the silence and savor my one piece of pizza. It’s listening with grace not only for others but for me, as well.
Jill I'm so moved by your reply to my piece. Thank you for sharing how it impacted you and what you might do next as a result. Wishing you well with it, for your sake and for the sake of the whole.
Julie, as a friend of yours in real life, and one who has spent some time with you in a group, this column really made me smile. I’m as introverted as they come so I believe I bring a bit of expertise to this issue. So much of what you said is right on, especially the part about needing extra time to formulate our thoughts and convert them into spoken words, but I think I speak for many of us when I say we are drawn to wonderful extroverts like you because we don’t really want a full share of the pie. I love it when someone whose views I respect assumes a bigger part of the burden of keeping a conversation going.
I would hate to see you rein yourself in too much (although I don’t see that as likely😉)
There's a role for all of us my friend.
As an introvert and pizza lover, thank you for this!
You're so welcome 🍕
🤭🤗 I think I wanted another piece of pizza!😟
Thanks for the reminders.
Me too. We just gotta be a little better at sharing 🍕
In the real world, I am the introvertiest introvert that ever introverted. My students, however, see me as an extrovert, partially because I leap to fill dead air in the classroom. My department chair, who observes me on the regular, has mentioned it often, always reminding me that some students need time to formulate their answers. I really like the 10-second rule and will try to add that to my pedagogic repertoire this year. Thanks, Jules!