The other day, I was taking a two-lane road through town, lined with homes on one side and businesses on the other. I passed the speciality market I shop at when I need nicer things, an affordable senior housing complex, and the demolition site of an elementary school being rebuilt. The tracks were up ahead.
This particular road was recently striped with bike lanes next to the curb, so I’m careful to stay within the lane designated for cars. I’m approaching the area where trees are heavy with their summer burdens and hang over the road a bit. Beneath them I spot a dark crumple of something that appears to have been dropped into the bike lane.
As I get within 30 feet of it, the darkness becomes purple. It looks to be a heap of fabric sturdy enough to hold shape. A drapery perhaps, or a puffy jacket.
I keep driving. Now mere feet away from the crumple, I come upon it and see the black soles of shoes, heels in the air, toes turned in toward each other. If these shoes did not have feet in them, they would fall to the ground.
This tells me there are feet in these shoes. This tells me this is a person.
All at once I go “Jesus!” and I brake, and dart my eyes to my rearview to see two cars bearing down on me. I can’t just screech to a stop without causing chaos for these drivers and perhaps injuring this person at the side of the road who perhaps is already injured or dead I don’t know.
I pull over into the bike lane just ahead of the crumpled person. The two cars pass me, oblivious I guess. I shift into first, turn off my ignition, grab my phone, check to see that it’s safe to exit, and walk toward the person while pulling out my phone. I now see black hair, white skin, and a purple dress. I hear her mumble. She’s alive, thank God.
“Are you alright!” I’m calling out, not shouting but making myself heard, as I pull up the keypad to dial 911.
She twists around to look at me. “Don’t take my picture.” Then she mumbles things I cannot comprehend.
“I’m not taking your picture I’m calling the authorities,” I tell her. Later I realize I should have said “I’m calling for help.”
“Don’t do that, I’m fine,” she says. “Well you’re lying here in the street,” I say.
She scrambles to her feet and comes toward me. She’s slender and taller than me. Her face is streaked with dirt as if repeatedly splashed by muddy water. Some of the mud looks like freckles. It might be freckles. Her dress is purple and black. Her shoes are chunky black boots. Her long black hair is twisted here and there and perhaps was pinned up but is now on its way back down. She looks like she might have been at a Steampunk convention. An unusual sight in my hometown.
She’s quite talkative. Her nose drips clear fluid. I tell her I was just concerned because she’d been lying in the road. She takes a step toward me then hugs me, and I let her. She tells me where she lives, describes how to turn here and there to get there. I tell her my name and she tells me hers, and how to spell it. I say it back to her, but I get a vowel sound wrong and she corrects me. “It’s an anagram,” she tells me. I think she means palindrome, but it’s neither.
I’m confident [NAME] is alive and relatively fine. We say goodbye. I watch her walk off down the sidewalk.
I never called 911 or anyone else. Maybe I should have. What would you have done if you’d seen what I saw on my drive home?
xo
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Your writing makes me feel like I experienced that event myself. That’s a special and enlightening experience.
No, I would NOT have called 911 either. A lot of that has to do with whether or not you get someone reasonably competent at dispatch is a crap shoot. They can cope with full blown emergency, but anything else is hit and miss.
When there is not much else to do, be kind. That is what you did. It is, in and of itself, a gift. Or that’s my feeling about it.
I would have walked over to her and had my phone where it couldn't be seen in case - I like to think I would have given her a ride - I would have to have lived this to be sure.
As far as topics that you mentioned - I have written a memoir dedicated to those who have been sexually abused. I would like to see this topic added to your list - I'm hoping, when I give talks about my book, where I will say that the shame always belongs to the abuser, it will open some up to share. I had two speak after my first talk a few weeks ago- one came up to me privately and left before I could speak to her. I immediately went home and had cards made with my name and phone number to give out to those who share privately. I'm not a therapist and would gently suggest that to anyone who is still stuck in their abuse.