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Tari Vickery's avatar

Wow—what a beautiful journey you just took my heart on. Thank you for sharing your tenderness, your honesty, and for inviting us into such a raw and sacred space. Your vulnerability is a gift--and your love for your mom shines through every word.

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Kim Overton's avatar

Agreed, memories are, they just are. Not to be undone, perhaps to be examined to inform us of who we were, continue to be, where we want to go.

I’m envious of your time and relationship with your mom and I know better to romanticize it.

Thank you for the explicit reminder:

“If I could do it over, among other things, I would give her some tasks to do until the very end. Because doing IS living, and I only realize that now that it’s too late. And I offer it up to you in case it helps you do better by someone for whom you will be a caregiver or already are.”

How to know when “doing for” means you care or means you lack confidence in the other person.

This also works for my twenty + year olds in the house, for visiting friends and family …doing is living, doing is feeling included and valued and missed when you’re gone.

It’s good to read your words again! Peace be with you and yours ❤️

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